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Ask yourself the same questions, and you may find that you are more willing to open up in this area. In this case, Tess, you and your guy have a responsibility to get to know each other in a way that is more than just friends. Let those things lead into natural questions about your hopes and dreams.I have found that this kind of internal examination is really helpful when deciding what and when to share information with a significant other. I’ve known more than a few people who simply did not know how to draw an appropriate line. It’s important to resist “trauma bonding,” where you share and compare your most troubling stories as a way to foster a false intimacy.
But rely on healthy boundaries, as well as intentional conversations and time spent together, and easing into a healthy relationship building openness will come naturally.The questions you should ask yourself to determine when to be vulnerable are: For example, on a first date, there is typically no commitment and you likely don’t know if you can trust the other person to treat your feeling with respect. But then maybe on date four or five the conversation naturally evolves to the topic of say, losing loved ones.How much would you feel comfortable revealing to someone? As you converse, you see that he treats the subject with sensitivity and maybe he has revealed a type of loss that you relate to.It was no wonder why I enjoyed dating many people at the same time. Several weeks ago while hosting my client appreciation Happy Hour event in Colorado, I explained this concept to a client, and, instantly, I could see the lightbulb go on over her head. Now, we travel together about twice a month to different cities and countries, and our life together still moves fast. Whether you like to move fast or slow is not the issue.What matters is that you meet someone who enjoys operating at your speed in dating and in life.
Before him, I dated men who were so slow I could watch paint dry waiting for them to commit or to take things to a new level.